No Story Stagnates with Ernie Boxall and Dr Kandiss Taylor.

Kandiss Taylor is travelling the state of Georgia in the gubernatorial race for November 2022. This is her life story, the authentic story of an American woman fighting to defend the Constitution of the United States of America.
A wife, mother and family woman she has put her present way of life on the line to see the change that she wants her children to enjoy.
Listen to her story. #storytelling, #Georgia
https://anchor.fm/ernie-boxall/episodes/No-Story-Stagnates-with-Ernie-Boxall-and-Kandiss-Taylor-e1eijjg/a-a6be4eh

Santa's Tale and Psychology How Santa opened my eyes to joy and parental psyche

During the last three months of 2021, I played the role of Santa Claus. These are my observations on Parental Interaction with their children.

The Story and the Lessons #1

He waited in the darkened schoolroom as the excited voices grew louder.
When the Princes, and the children, counted the 1-2-3, the Star on the top of the Christmas tree lit up and Santa Clause left the safe, security of the schoolroom and rushed out to meet the children...his work had begun.

Welcome to the world of Santa Claus. But, perhaps, not the world you are familiar with.

It’s a world of interaction and performance. No sitting on Santa's knee for 10 seconds, no waiting in queues for thirty minutes. This was a two and a half hour, interactive performance. In fact, it was a production. A Princes. Two elves. A script. Music. Effects and lights and audio. Everything had to be rehearsed, timed and coordinated right down to the costume changes. And, of course, there was Santa.

The Role: The role of Santa is a strange one. The script gives him minimal words to say but his actions are central to the show. He appears with a "Ho Ho  Ho" of course and the eyes of the children light up. The parents all point and say "Look it's Santa." And, their eyes light up as well.

Meeting the kids for the first time should energise any Santa. As they sit cross-legged waiting for the man in red to stand in front of them and without doubt, when he asks the children to create 'Christmas Cheer' they all nod their heads. And, that is why playing Santa isn't easy.

The children believe that Santa is standing in front of them, that every action Santa takes is watched and, perhaps copied by the children. Over the course of this article, I will go into the positives and negatives of the Santa role. The Psychology of Santa1. “The Santa Claus myth dates back hundreds of years to a real-life monk named St. Nicholas who was born around 280 AD in modern-day Turkey.”

Through the ages, and through communities it is strongly, believed that pagan’s had characters with similar actions and cultural benefits for the people of the time. The character wore different clothes and performed in different ceremonies, but the effects were still the same-to bring joy to the people for a certain period of time (depending on the country).

The Children:2. “Children are also most likely to believe in Santa if parents leave evidence around the house to support his story.” The proof was writ-large with the start of every performance.”It’s Santa.” The parent’s, in the main, were as excited as the children as all eyes turned to the man in the red suit and the white beard. The children’s eyes lit up and the belief was unquestionable in the children between the ages of 3, up to 8 years of age. And, as Santa asked the children if they would help create magic by “joining in all the games and having fun” all of them nodded their heads.

The Adults* By and large, there was a discernable change in the attitudes of the mother and father to the performances from the end of the introduction. Mothers were more likely to join in with the games and the dances that followed while fathers spent a much shorter time with the children in the village and were more likely to have their mobile phones out for business than for taking pictures.

In the next article, I will be talking about the performances themselves and, again, the lessons I took from observing the generations as they began this magical adventure.

No Story Stagnates #2 with Barnie Giltrap

Barnie Giltrap

Interview

Barnie Giltrap

Consultant, Small Business Owner, and Software Engineer in Coventry, United Kingdom

Born in Liverpool, Barnie is a full time, a mature student at Coventry University and is also following his dream to develop digital Comic-book Animations around his passion for Sci-Fi.

Barnie has a real interest in community regeneration and via local rather than global solutions and is also provides Consultancy and support to organisations running Linux Servers integrated with Desktop Environments.

Now, living in Coventry, Barnie has been a trustee with Arty Folks since 2017, Barnie takes us into the life of a man working through the trauma of PTSD and severe migraine with art therapy and has turned that experience into a venture working with computer comics and games.  He talks about the lack of therapy and understanding of the issues around PTSD.

Barnie talks about the importance of encouraging creativity especially if your character is one of individual responsibility.

Barnie's early life experiences of moving between Liverpool and Ireland. He is taking his future in his own hands and using stories to promote a Kickstarter project at university.

join us as we talk about Barnie's hopes for more research into mental health and the future of his love for comic stories in the computer age.

#mentalhealth #PTSD #

 

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Website: about.me/barniegiltrap 
 

Email: barnie@giltrap.org.uk

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/barniegiltrap/
 

IM:  barnie@giltrap.org.uk 

No Story Stagnates #1 with Julie Kiefer

Julie Kiefer

 Julie Kiefer is a creative, energetic, and collaborative Business, and Digital Marketing Consultant with a passion for scaling brands’ impact and developing digital marketing strategies that convert. She is working as the International Brand Manager for McVitie's & Godiva UK and is consumer-focused, results-driven, business building, and strong project management skills. 

But, that is only part of the Julie Kiefer you will see and learn about here.

   Born in France, Julie talks about her fascination for having her own business, exploring the world, and closing the gender gap by bringing people from different backgrounds together to make the world a better place.

   Julie loves swimming, yoga, and ideas-she carries a book, full of her own thoughts and ideas for a guide to future action.

   But, the focus of this interview is on Julie's work with the Diabetic Travellers Network, a social impact organization that helps people with diabetes live that life of freedom through traveling the world.

We learn about:

• The benefits and pitfalls of Julie's constant search for perfection.

• Julie's story from before she was born.

• How she was diagnosed with Stage 1 diabetes at the age of 4 and how that shaped her life.

• How she adapted to the negative constraints of diabetes and turned them into positives.

• The role sport and a supportive family is playing in her life.

• Julie's progress towards setting up her own company and her attitude exemplified by her story of being in Spain.

 

Julie's story is covered in her final statement "If there is a bad side of things there is always a positive we can find. If you want to see it!"

To contact Julie, go to
https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-kiefer/
https://www.instagram.com/kfr.julie/

Book a Free Call at:

linktr.ee/kfr.julie
 


 

No Story Stagnates, with me, Ernie Boxall

‘No Story Stagnates’

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Writing (or speaking) Your Own Story...A template to heal the pain!

How Stories Change Lives...For the Better or Worse!
Business Owners And Employees Who Use The Words Anxiety or Dread When Asked About Speaking To A Live Audience!

Are you a business owner or an employee who has to speak to a live audience on a regular basis?
And if so would you use the words 'Sleepless nights-Anxiety or Dread to describe your emotions as your turn to speak approaches?
  Are you frustrated by the barriers which those words put up to you making the maximum impact on your audience, clients or sales force?
Instead, wouldn't you just love to know, in plain language, how you can gain and maintain the know, like and trust of the sales force you are speaking to…even if it's yourself you are selling?
  If so, then you MUST read on!
Recently, I was asked to work with a woman who has been employed for her knowledge of a sector in the health and nutrition market. She has the qualifications from university to guarantee that she knows her 'stuff' but, she has issues with speaking in front of a live audience.
  We spoke over Zoom and used the programme called:
         "How To Shiver Instead of Shine When You Face A Live Audience-or now the camera!"

 This is her story in brief:
Born in Africa, her father was rarely home and when he was he was violent but her mother tried hard to keep the family together until it, eventually, broke her and the lady was sent to her grandmother and the special man in her life, her grandfather.
  Her mother remarried and the lady returned home...unfortunately, her mother had married a man with the same instinct as her father and the pattern was repeated.
  The lady left her home, her country and came to England to work and work hard.
 Here she eventually married and had a daughter...the pattern repeated. Her husband was physically and verbally abusive until she walked away and divorced.
  In a foreign country, with a little girl and working two jobs she was alone...not just alone physically but with religious family members who believed it was a sin to divorce. She was alone psychologically.
   Through all of this, she graduated from university and set out on business.

This was the story she told me as we explored the decades of her life and the lessons she had carried with her...
  Only once in her life had she received the support of people she loved...tears flowed.
  But from the tears, a new message came through...She had achieved so much against all the barriers; her life had been meandering and blocked so that she had had no direction...the Fire in her life had burned down to the ashes...Until our conversation when the story of her life had been laid out and she had clarity about her issues with her emotions.
  We ended the online 1-2-1 with smiles and a new determination to work on a plan to take her new energy to the audience.
  In the 'How To Shiver Instead of Shine When You Face A Live Audience...or the camera!" programme, you'll discover:

How to have Clarity in your message and the audience you are talking to!

How to guarantee that you entertain as well as educate the clients, workforce and decision-makers.

How to craft and deliver your business and your life story so that you make the maximum impact with your presentations.

To learn more about this FREE introductory webinar, contact me at ernie@erniesaid.info and receive the exact Templates I use when coaches and consultants book me for their workshops (worth the £250 I charge for 2 hours)

P.S. Don't forget, no one knows your story better than you do...so act now and spend 40 minutes with me!
 

First Aid for Speakers!...Standing in at a moment's notice. (Copy)

Hi
What would you do if you turned up at a meeting and it was announced that the main speaker couldn't make the trip or, in this case, make the Zoom call? It happened to me last week I did what I tell my clients to do-I put my hand up and stepped in to deliver a 20 minute 4Sight.

Reading time approximately 3 mins.

 

Self Belief

I did it because I could do it; because I have followed my own advice and used the '4 Ps of Perfect Presentations'. I have prepared. I practised. I performed. The other P is posture but on camera that is more nuanced.

I have prepared and practiced stories for more than twenty years now so it was second nature to deliver it. The difference is in the performance. We all  have a story-a presentation-but some will tell it poorly, some will tell it well...you should aim to tell it very well. The ROI on you presentation will depend on the number of people who remember some part of your story and your name.

"Ian (not his real name) told us of his near perfect upbringing-a good family life until he reached the age of 18 and became heavily involved in drugs. Homelessness and degradation followed quickly until his early 20s when some realisation managed to worm itself through the fog and crap inside his psyche. His life was shit. He knew that.

Rather than having a positive affect on his thought process he was driven to suicidal actions. He tried to drown himself at a weir. His head under the water and some drugs in his body he thought it would be enough to end the torture. What happened next changed the course of his-story.

Ian told us that, under the water, his head had a clearing-a change took place and he returned home. Ian joined an allotment (he'd enjoyed gardening and liked to have his hands in the soil) and that began a process which, while it didn't completely end his use of drugs did begin the process.

During this time, Ian, began using a local pub and talking to a bar maid. They were getting on pretty well and so he plucked up the courage to invite her out on her free evening, it was a Tuesday. Tuesday was Ian's night at the allotment. The end of the opportunity, Ian thought, but he told her anyway. Anne (not her real name) told him she loved gardening. They spent Tuesday at the allotment and quite a few Tuesday evenings after that.

They married and worked on the allotment providing food for themselves and people around them. The enterprise expanded to a strip of land on a farm, near by.

That strip of land grew until the farmer decided to take a back seat and handed over the running of the farm to them...Ian and Anne developed the farm into a business attracting children and teenagers with learning difficulties and other psychological problems to visit the farm and interact with the farm animals.

What a story.

And the only reason I'm telling it is because of the thousands of stories I have heard it is amongst those I remember.

If this were you, there would be two questions: What story would you tell? How well can you tell it?

 Questions to ask yourself:

 

Are you comfortable facing a live audience in the first place?

Would you be advising yourself to seek out further support?

Would you be challenging yourself to do more presentations with more support?

What would you talk about if you had the opportunity to take over a presentation with no preparation?

What results would you expect from your presentation?

 

By asking yourself these questions, you are able to change the current viewpoint and focus. There are no right or wrong answers, only thoughts and observations that you can choose to ignore or act upon. What is it time for you to do now?